My Reality Isn’t the Same as Yours

I have been reminded recently of the gap between how one person sees a situation and how another sees it.  Not altogether uncommon.

I recall a time, when speaking with a senior leader of a very important organisation, my disappointment at his lack of understanding of why any work should be done around the culture of the organisation.  His focus was totally on the executive leadership team and how they believed they demonstrated constructive leadership styles in leading the organisation.  Why wouldn’t they believe that?  That was how they had measured themselves in a culture survey.  Yet the remainder of the organisation saw things from a very defensive view.  Things were not okay, yet, management just didn’t see it that way.

I’m not the only one to experience this.  Many of you would have.  Providing feedback to those in leadership positions, or in any position for that matter, which does not align with how they view the situation can be like hitting your head against a brick wall.  The comment, ‘well, that’s their perception but that’s not reality’ is one many of us have heard.  Yet, our perception is our reality, until our perception changes.

How often do you take a look at your team, your business, or any situation with a view to truly understand the reality of the situation?  If you do realise things may not be how you would like them to be, do you become defensive?  Do you think of all the reasons why the situation is the way it is, possibly blaming others or finding excuses?  Do you acknowledge it could be internal issues, or it is external?  Do you have anything to do with the current reality?  How have you influenced it?

We need to be able to look at our team, our business, our situation with a critical eye.  We need to be able to see and acknowledge the reality.  If we can’t do that, how can we improve what needs to be improved?  How can we deliver what we say we can deliver?

Is your reflection and review accurate?  What impact is it having if it isn’t?

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